I will talk about bar girls for 2 reasons. It’s one of the main reasons foreign men come to Thailand and it’s also an important issue. The sex industry is massive in Thailand and although it is very wide spread across Thailand the three most famous places are the ‘3 P’s’. Pattaya, Patpong and Phuket. The girls are mostly young, between 18 and 30 years old, stunningly beautiful and willing to do most things for the right price.
Usually they have a sad story behind them becoming a bar girl, they are sold at a very young age into the business to pay off family debts or they do it to help themselves and their families out of poverty. Not all do for these reasons; some enjoy the life and make a lot of money.
Never be fooled by a bar girl, they are as smart as they are beautiful, they know what you want and they know how to empty your wallet and keep you coming back for more.
They will tell you they love you and you are their first, when you are probably forgotten as soon as you’ve had your fill and emptied your wallet and then they move on to the next person. You may think you are street wise, but believe me no farang is anywhere near the same class as a bar girl.
They can manipulate you, tease you, scam you, rob you, drug you and that’s just a small percentage of their talents. Now don’t get me wrong, I am not saying bad things about these girls, they are providing a service farangs want and they are just making the best of the situation.
I know many bar girls who are great people and yes I have used the services they provide. They are there to make money for themselves, the bars they work in or the pimps they work for. You will fall in love and they will tell you they will stop working in the bars so long as you send them so much every month, but as soon as you step on the plane to go home they are straight back down the bar plying their trade, whilst your still sending money every month and probably 1 or 2 other farangs are as well. Look into the eyes of a bar girl and many times you will see the sadness behind the layers of make-up and lies, but don’t be fooled by them. Many have Thai boyfriends and husbands who allow the girls to earn money to feed their drug, alcohol or even gambling addictions, again a worldwide situation.
If you do come to Thailand for the sole purpose of getting laid, then take precautions, wear condoms, not all the girls are as clean as they say. Also stick to the well-known bars, like the ones in Patpong or Bangla Road in Phuket and the more famous ones in walking street in Pattaya. Be very careful of the independent girls as these could be ‘honey traps’, under aged girls or girls set up to have you mugged or possibly HIV infected girls.
Many farang men have married bar girls or been in long term relationships with bar girls and everything has worked out well. For me it was never an option, yes I used the service and made some good friends, but even during my time as a ‘sex tourist’ I was never comfortable. I never physically or mentally abused any of them, but I was fully aware of what the agreement was and although I did come to like most of those I met, it was always business first. The simples rules of engagement are usually you meet a girl in a bar and if you like her, you buy her drinks which a percentage goes to the bar owners, the girl will tell you she’s drinking whisky and coke and most of the time it’s just coke she gets, you still pay for the whisky.
You then pay a bar fine, which is about 500 Baht to take the girl out of the bar, you then pay the girl anything between 2,000 and 5,000 baht depending on the time you spend with her that night. Longer time is negotiable; a week could cost you 20,000 baht (£400) or more paying for meals and treats. Never make the mistake of not paying, again many stories of men going… and always have protectors, one phone call from them and your life could…