When your son or daughter become 13 and over, you should realize that they are not little kids anymore. They’re teenagers, so it’s time to tweak your parenting skills to keep up with them. You have new things to think about, like dating, new drivers, mysterious friends, testing your limits, and your patience.After all, they still your children and they need you. Here are 10 ways that can help you deal with them;
You may assume your teenagers to act and think like adults, however, it is better to be prepared for impulsive and irrational behaviors. The reason is that their brains are in the middle of a critical stage of development.
2: Show Your Deep Emotions
Although your son or daughter now prefer hanging around with friends over being in your arms, they need your warm hugs, kisses on the cheek, and showing your emotions continuously.That is because they will face things that can make them astonished, or scared, and they run to you. Let them know that you are always there.
3: Be helpful
Sometimes teenagers need your help, so If you see them struggling help them out. It takes the weight off their shoulders.
4: Accept minor mistakes
Try not to increase the pressure between you by treating your teenager like a kid, giving him/her orders and commenting on everything. This stage doesn’t need this kind of pressure.
5: Open your house to their friends
This step will be very appreciated from your teenager. Let him/her feel that it is allowed and welcomed to invite their friends. Let them listen to music, eat lunch, play video games, and so on.
6: Show your respect
Try to find things in common and do them together like running, fitness practice, …etc. Show your teen how much you appreciate his/her effort and that you trust him/her.
7: Stop fighting your teenager
Teenagers often feel they need to prove their viewpoint. Don’t let it upset you. Refuse to fight with them. Using empathy in your voice such as: “I bet it feels that way.”, and “I don’t know. What do you think?”. Try to find a solution make you satisfied. Sometimes, if you have to argue, you might accept to accept the defeat.
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